Lumelore (She/her)

I am a trans woman and a computer nerd :3

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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • I’m Autistic and I struggle with driving too. There’s too many things to pay attention to and it overwhelms my brain. It took me 5 tries to get my license. I genuinely would not drive if I didn’t live in the US and had access to reliable public transport. I cope with this by being very cautious. I have a hard time determining speed and distance so sometimes I will sit at a stop sign for notably longer than I need to which upsets the people behind me but I think it’s the only reason I haven’t gotten in an accident yet. I hate how car brained people can be. There’s nothing wrong with not being able to drive and lots of people in non-car brained countries who don’t.





  • I pretty much just sat at my desk, spaced out, and disassociated through most of grade school. In first grade I got detention for having a snowball fight, except I never did fight, and I was just picking up the snow to eat it (I was obsessed with eating snow as a kid). I was so confused and after that I felt like I couldn’t play or engage with anything, so I began to disengage as well.

    It’s only recently that I’ve realized disassociating and disengaging have made me very lonely and are no longer helpful to me and I’ve started trying to put more effort into socializing, but I’m also not that great at it.



  • I tend to miss things people say if all I have is their voice, so I am definitely better at reading. If I am focusing on comprehending them it reduces my ability to remember what they are telling me, so I too do much better with written instructions.

    I took 5 years of French in highschool and I could understand my teacher just fine. Then when I graduated and wanted to continue learning French I would listen to French videos in the background, but I realized I was missing a lot of things, so I went to rewind the video, and then suddenly noticed it was so much easier for me to understand them if I could lip read.

    Then I started to remember how when I was kid, and my parents would have me call a relative for whatever reason, and sometimes I would just hear garbled english, and I’d be so nervous and not know what to do, so I’d just say “yeah” and hope that sufficed. This still happens to me, although not as much, but it’s caused me to become phobic of phone calls.

    Now that I’ve realized how crucial lip reading is for me to understand speech, I now use only resources where I can actually see the person speaking if I want to practice that.

    (Also subtitles are awesome.)


  • 100% some people are genuinely shitty people and their behavior would happen even if society wasn’t misogynist, classist, etc.

    My goal wasn’t to alleviate them from responsiblity. I do not believe it is their fault for growing up in a society that is against them, but it is their fault for not thinking crtically and choosing to perpetuate that hate once they are an adult.

    Also I was thinking of abuse on a societal level, not an individual level, but that does contribute. (I probably could have used a better word. I do agree that abuse implies individual rather than societal.) I find the fact that so much misogyny and other hate exists within the overton window to be repulsive. Trump said “grab her by the pussy,” (plus a bunch of other terrible things) and got into the oval office not once, but twice, which shows that society has a major problem with finding hate acceptable. Why people find that hate acceptable I imagine varies between demographics.

    I still do stand by my previous comment, which is my thoughts on why specifically women voted the way they did, although I agree it has room to be expanded on more.

    I think a major part of it is that people simply aren’t thinking things through enough. They should be questioning society’s misogyny, racism, etc, but for some reason they choose to accept it as normal.


  • Abuse towards women is unfortunately so normalized by society that I bet most of those women don’t realize how much they have been manipulated since childhood to be against their own autonomy, especially if they grew up in a religious environment.

    It’s possible that women of minority demographics voted more blue because some realized how anti-(their specific minority) republicans are but, just like the white women, weren’t put off by republicans’ misogyny.




  • Mine talked about various contraceptive methods, STDs, and accidental/teen pregnancies. It did focus more on the pregnancy part than the STD part, but they also briefly talked about how condoms are still important even if you’re gay, since they prevent STDs.

    I have a cousin I went to highschool with. He grew up in the south, but he finished highschool with me in Minnesota, and he told me his sex ed curriculum down south consisted of a brief talk on how sex is bad and that it is important to eat vegetables. Even though he had health class credits from down south, the school made him take their health class and he was happy to find out it’s much more comprehensive than the south.


  • Most of the roundabouts near me have the crosswalks right up by the circle, so you’d have to either stop on top of the crosswalk, or stop with it in front of you. If you stopped with the crosswalk behind you, you’d be in the circle.

    And I do look at the circle ahead of time and will go if it is clear, but if it isn’t then I do stop, and it happens to take me longer to make a decision as to when I am good to go than most other people.

    If I didn’t live in freedumb land, I wouldn’t drive, but driving is the only reliable option here.



  • I am car C. I don’t care if car D is pissed at me, because I have autism and driving is overwhelming for me. I’m being extra cautious because it takes me longer to process sensory input because I can’t filter out the irrelevant things. Plus, I always make sure to check the crosswalks. I as a pedestrian have come very close to being hit while crossing multiple times and it seems most other drivers don’t give a shit about pedestrians at all.


  • I’ve actually seen a few and I personally don’t have a problem with it. I have also seen a lot of trans men on lesbian apps and technically, they should be on straight dating apps, but queer dating apps are more welcoming and it’s not an uncommon experience for transgender people to get banned from straight dating apps unfortunately (I myself am banned from tinder). I wouldn’t be surprised if those apps were also banning femboys as well.

























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